The Six Myths About Building Confidence

If you truly want to boost your confidence, then it’s important to really understand it. There are a lot of myths about self-confidence, and it’s time we stop believing them!

How often have you been told that you will boost your confidence just by looking at yourself in the mirror and repeating the mantra “You are amazing.You are enough”? Countless, we are sure. To better understand confidence, lets take a look at a few myths and see whether our assumptions are right or wrong.

Myth 1: Confidence comes from within.

This statement is false. Confidence is often something that can be learned or boosted if we work on several important areas:

-       Body language

-       Physicality

-       Positive Attitude

-       Acknowledging achievements

-       Receiving social support

Myth 2: Confident people never fail.

This is absolutely false. Someone with high confidence can fail just as much, if not even more, than someone with lots of personal doubts. This is because confident people have the courage to take concrete action and are not afraid of failure. Being ready to take a risk regardless of the consequences increases the chance of success, as well as failure.

Confident people fail just as much, if not more, than other people.

What is key to understand is how people deal with failure. Some see it as a dent in their self-esteem, others (the confident ones) see it as an opportunity to learn so that they can do better next time.

Myth 3: Confident can be afraid too.  

True.

People who carry themselves with confidence can experience doubts, fear and insecurities just like everyone else. These people, however, don`t let fear hold them back. They acknowledge their fears, evaluate the situation they are in and find the best solutions to tackle the problem. They take action, when needed.

One question confident people often ask themselves is “What is the worst thing that can happen?” If they fail, they accept it and move on. If they succeed, it is a good day for everyone. It is not always about being the best at something but to know that they put everything they have and used every resource in their possession to achieve maximum results. In these cases, it is important to have a mindset of continuous improvement, so that you can learn from your failures and do better next time.

Myth 4. You need to be perfect in order to feel confident.  

False.

Remember: there is no such thing as being perfect in this world. Even the people we believe to be perfect, are not. We all have our flaws, prejudices and limitations. Always trying to be perfect is what holds us back. It is setting an impossible goal that we can never reach, because there will be always something more that we want. It is discouraging to always try to be perfect because it can lead to fear of never achieving it. This fear, in turn, can lead us to never take action. Perfectionism, in a way, can serve as an excuse not to take action.

Myth 5. Confident people are confident in everything

False.

This is not an all or nothing situation but it rather applies to specific situations. Confident people can be very strong in one thing but very doubtful in another. It doesn’t mean that if you are confident in one thing you need to be absolutely confident in everything else. For example, you can be confident in one area because of your experience, expertise or specific knowledge. However, in a completely different situation you can feel out of place because of a topic you have no experience with.

The main point here is that confident people understand that and they often strive to become more proficient in areas they are not familiar with.They challenge themselves to become better so that their confidence in that area grows and that’s the way they build themselves up.

6. Confident people can be very arrogant.

False

We often confuse confidence with arrogance. Arrogant people feel the need to show off because they crave other people`s approval and adoration. They often feel the need to belittle others to make themselves feel better. This is a sign of insecurity, not confidence.

A confident person does not need other people`s validation. They are perfectly comfortable in their own skin and often choose to lead by example than to humiliate others for their own benefit. That`s confidence.